We're focussing on burn-out, because a majority of us is interested in mental health expert Spill's session. It may be that you're interested in the session for yourself or to better know how to support other people. Regardless, this post feels timely and relevant to all of us.
You might want to ask yourself: • Can I relate to the causes proposed in the model? • Do I experience some of the symptoms described in the model? To which extent? • What type of support resonates with the needs I have that aren't currently met?
According to Basecamp's book Remote and more (the likes of CultureGene founder and Culture expert Bretton Putter), the highest risk of going full remote is not a Netflix overdose but burnout.
So, what is it? How can we spot it in ourselves and others? And more importantly, translate 'it's not a sprint, it's a marathon' into how we structure and balance our lives. Remotely.
It is harder to feel heard in a virtual environment. Sometimes we don't ask for help soon enough because we feel like everyone has their own stuff to do and our stuff is on us so "we shouldn't have to ask for help". In an office, it's easier to see when people look frustrated or feel down or like they could use a cuppa, which makes it easier to bring people in for support without a taste of impostor syndrome.
What I mean by this, is that you won't be less of anything if you ask for help. You'll still be skillful, brilliant, your achievements will still be yours, you'll still be strong and qualified and not perfect but that's ok because you don't have to be. It's ok to have lows, it's ok if it gets too much sometimes when you want to do so many things so well.
It is harder to rely on others to set healthy boundaries. No one can spot you looking tired on the sofa, changing little habits or drinking more coffee than the human body should be able to tolerate.
Burn-out happens because yours boundaries are not set in a way that's beneficial to you. Don't put yourself second, put yourself first alongside everyone else or you will likely sacrifice your energy until there's nothing left — that's what burnout feels like.